Over and over again during my pregnancy I was told that those days were over, usually with a smircky laugh from someone speaking from experience. It was something I told myself would not happen to us. Our baby was going to enhance our lives, not take away from it. Guess what... I was right... and I was wrong.
No we are not spending weekends boating, nor are we enjoying lazy afternoons by our pool. You can't bring a baby on a boat and you don't want to spend a valuable daddy son day without the baby so you can selfishly go on your boat. We still go to the beach, but now that means sitting in your beach house, rather than on the actual beach. So yes, for now it does look like those days are over.
But I never experienced one moment on the boat that filled me with such joy as when I see my son smile. This is a new venture for him, smiling, so we are still overjoyed when he flashes us his pearly... gums:) And honestly each time I think tears come to my eyes... and the same goes for my husband. We do still get use out of our pool, but these days its usually around 6pm and the pool time lasts only about 20 minutes. But I have never laughed more in that pool than when Dylan was kicking and splashing around in his daddy's arms.
Last weekend we had two parties to go to. Luckily the first one grandma was able to watch the baby for a few hours so we could attend. We were chatting with friends about the life of having a baby and how now one of us is the designated "sober parent" whenever we go out. Of course you can't both be drunk and care for your baby properly, heaven forbid he get sick while you have been drinking and need to go to the hospital. That along with the fact that you really need to be 100% focused 100% of the time with your baby, being drunk while feeding your child his bottle is just unacceptable parenting... I think most of us can agree on that.
So we mentioned this new rule we have to our childless friends and recieved responses like "that sucks" "having a baby sounds not fun at all"... the typical responses you would expect from those without children. Its times like that I just smile to myself... we created a human being, one that we are completely responsible for molding and shaping, one that with a single smile brings tears to our eyes, a little baby that has changed our life in a way that is different in countless wonderful ways. Yes there are a few ways that have changed that are not ideal, but it was worth the trade.
Today is the day after the 4th of July, one of the countries designated big party holidays. I've been up since 6am playing peek-a-boo, doing belly time, tickling the baby becuase he's just started giggling, a mini little photoshoot with him cuddled up next to our boxer. We are going to take the baby to the farmers market today, walk around as a family and buy fresh produce. We probably will eat lunch together somewhere new, take a walk with the dogs, maybe an evening swim with the baby and then probably a movie night with Jon after the baby goes to bed. Gone are the days of late night parties and all day hangovers... looks like its now the days of quality time as a family, doing things we never ever would do the day after 4th of july....happy and smiling together enjoying every minute... sounds cheesy i know... but sounds nice too...
guess this is our life now.
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